Any advise for NY state wife divorcing husband?

Have you filed for divorce? It sounds like you should go down to your local Legal Aid society to see if you meet the criteria for either pro-bono or sliding scale legal assistance. If both names are on the deed, then both owners must sign a realty contract. The attorney who assists you will be able to let you know based upon the duration of your marriage and other factors, whether or not you are entitled to rehabilitative alimony or a Qualified Domestic Relations Order (QDRO) in the event that he has pension benefits from his job. If you learn that you have a legal right to put him out of the house pending the sale, while you move back in, have one of your GROWN SONS assist you in helping their father move out. They certainly don't seem to have been much help to you thus far.